Proverbs 17:22 – A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
Is Complaining Bad For You
We’ve all been guilty of it! Things don’t seem to be going the way we think they should. We think, I just need to ‘vent’ and that will make me feel better. Certain subjects have even become the social norm to complain about in our circles. Among the most popular subjects for the social complaint sessions: politics, the weather, work, finances, and other people.
The question is, are there any benefits to complaining? Quite the contrary, complaining has negative effects not only on our attitude, but on our relationships, as well as our health.
Four Negative Effects Of Complaining
Complaining actually rewires our way of thinking, making it easier to complain in the future. In other words, you are setting yourself up to become a habitually negative and critical person.
Complaining can raise your cortisol levels. Excessive cortisol leads to increased blood sugar and blood pressure, as well as weight gain and also affects bone density. Over time, this can weaken the immune system.
Negativity spreads. As you complain, you are spreading discontent to those around you. Vice versa, as you surround yourself with negative people, you find yourself in a toxic environment. The old adage is true, misery loves company.
Constant complaining is draining on even the best of relationships. No one wants to be around a constantly complaining person.
Alternatives to Complaining
Take a step back from the situation. Ask yourself, what you can do to help the situation. How can you be part of the solution, instead of the problem?
Realize you cannot control everything. You are setting yourself up for disappointment if you are constantly trying to control people and situations. This is not your job!
View your situation as an opportunity to build your character. Ask yourself what you can learn from it.
Contemplate your blessings, instead of focusing on the negative. We are abundantly blessed. Why focus on what is going wrong? It is hard to be miserable when you realize how blessed you really are.
Realize it is one thing to confide in a friend when seeking advise for a problem you may face, and quite another to complain about our situations. If you are not taking personal responsibility and seeking steps that you can do to improve the situation, chances are you are complaining.
Think back to a time you faced something that stressed you out. How did you handle the situation? Did you complain, or did you seek solution? How did your reaction make you feel?